Here’s a question I received the other day:

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“what can I do if the feeling of
being inside my women is so intense
I can’t handle it?”
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This is a great question because it pretty much sums up the whole problem. Things feel so good, you lose control.

The answer is simple:
You need to decrease your sensitivity — and you have a few options.

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Option #1 – “Desensitizing” Products
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You can use desensitizing sprays (Stud100 is a popular one), and many guys experience some success with these things.

But there are obvious downsides to this approach:

1) it’s not really solving the problem, it’s just covering it up

2) the “desensitization” stuff can make her numb too – which is not cool.

So, generally speaking, I wouldn’t recommend going that route.

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Option #2 – Short-term “Tricks”
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For example, using *Extra Lubrication* is a little-known trick that can decrease sensitivity.

Another trusted technique is to ejaculate before you have sex, so that you aren’t as “on edge”.

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Option #3 – Long-Term Solution
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In my opinion, the best option is to fix it permanently, so you don’t have to rely on short-term “tricks”…

What do I mean? I’m talking about learning the fundamentals of how this stuff really works, and changing your behavior so that you have much greater control, without relying on all sorts of tricks.

Imagine being able to last as long as you want — being able to decide when you want to ejaculate — rather than having to worry about whether you’re going to last long enough.

When you really break it out, there are 2 main aspects to this.

1) Physical

This type of training will directly decrease your sensitivity. The first step is to use proper masturbation techniques, so you train yourself to withstand intense stimulation. If you masturbate the right way, you can get to know your body’s response to sexual stimulation, which will help you last longer when you’re inside a woman.

2) Mental

You also have to overcome performance anxiety and other mental barriers that may be holding you back from experiencing great sex. The thoughts in your head before and during sex have a huge impact on how long you’ll last. So, in addition to physical training, it’s important to learn how to “rewire” your thoughts about sex.

If you’re interested in taking this type of long-term approach to lasting longer,
click here to learn more

If you want to last longer in bed, then you need to control your arousal…. But there’s actually MORE to it than that…

You need to be paying attention to your arousal from the VERY beginning…. Not just when you start having sex – but when you start kissing, when you start foreplay, etc.

Yeah, you need to be watching your arousal THAT early. Otherwise, you’ll be ready to explode when you start having sex. And that’s EXACTLY what you DON’T want to happen!

So remember to pay attention from the very beginning. And the whole point is to NOT get too excited too early.

Take it S-L-O-W . . . And keep your cool. You’ll last longer.

Finally, when you start having sex, ENTER SLOWLY. And don’t start pumping like a mad man :)

Take a few seconds or a minute to get used to the feeling of being inside, without thrusting. If you use this tip, you’ll last MUCH longer in bed.

I know I’m talking about going S-L-O-W, but if you want to SPEED UP your progress, so that you’ll last longer than you ever thought possible, check out my ebook, “The Step-by-Step Guide To Lasting Longer In Bed”

Here’s something most guys totally screw up: MIND CONTROL.

I’m not talking about Jedi mind tricks, or bizarre stuff like that. I’m talking about how to fix your bedroom “mindset” and what thoughts you need to have, in order to last as long as possible. Watch the video below to learn more.

Here’s the BIG mistake guys make, when it comes to mind control:

They DISTRACT themselves, by thinking about strange non-sexual things like baseball statistics, dead puppies, or other weird stuff.

I’m not joking — thousands and thousands of guys use this technique.

(And if it works for you, that’s OK. I’m not a purist. You should do what works for you. Whatever works is awesome in my opinion).

But, in my view, it isn’t the best technique, because when you distract yourself, you’re taking attention AWAY from your arousal.

Instead, for the best long-term results, you should really be doing the OPPOSITE. You should be focusing ON your arousal. And as always, remember to breathe deeply to stay calm and relaxed.

In addition to arousal control and deep breathing, you also need to focus on HER. That change in focus, away from you (and how long you’re lasting), will help relieve performance anxiety. Plus, she’ll love that you’re being more attentive. Try it tonight!

Click here to learn more about a step-by-step formula to lasting longer in bed.

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, then you know that I’m a BIG believer in stress relief.

As I explain in my new book (“Step-By-Step Guide to Lasting Longer in Bed”), you need to be relaxed in bed, in order to last longer. But you also need to learn how to conquer everyday stress, before it creeps into the bedroom and sabotages your sex life.

In one of my recent posts, I talked about how deep breathing is critical to lasting longer in bed.

Sounds simple right? Well, fortunately, it is.

But the tricky thing about deep breathing and other forms of stress relief is that you might know what you’re supposed to do… but it’s still hard to get yourself to actually do it.

Plus, it really does help to know how to do it the right way. Breathing in for 3-4 seconds and out for 4-5 seconds is a pretty helpful approximation. But, as it turns out, everybody is a little bit different. And if you know exactly how to breathe the right way, with the right timing, you can become much more relaxed more quickly. And as a result, you’ll have much more control in bed.

Enter: The StressEraser.

If you want to train your body to breathe in the EXACT way, so that you achieve total relaxation and reduce your everyday stress levels, this gadget is a godsend.

Here’s how it works…

It’s a biofeedback device, which means that it gives you real-time feedback on bodily functions — in this case, your heart rate. (Specifically, it’s a “heart rate variability” biofeedback device).

You stick your finger in it, and breathe. Then on the screen, it measures the rate of change in your heart rate. It scores you on how well you’re breathing, in terms of how relaxed you’re getting.

Basically, it makes meditative breathing easy and fun, almost like a game.

And, what’s really cool about this gadget is that it’s about the size of a deck of cards, so you can carry it around with you wherever you go. So you can pull it out and get relaxed at a moment’s notice.

Personally, I like to use it in the morning and at night. It’s great for relaxing right before bed.

And the whole point of “biofeedback,” as far as I can tell, is that you gradually train your body to know exactly how to breathe in such a way so that you can “erase your stress,” quickly.

Back when I got mine, years ago, these were selling for $300 or $400. But, as with most high-tech gadgets, the price has really come down recently. They’re now selling for a FRACTION of that price.

So, if you’re looking to reduce and better manage your stress — whether to last longer in bed, or to improve your general quality of life — go grab a StressEraser. It just may change your life.

Go here to learn more: http://StressEraser.com

(And, on that site, be sure to watch the videos and read stories about other people who have improved their lives with this thing).

Are you having trouble managing your stress? Do you have any questions about how to reduce your stress?

Let me know!

Here’s a big question I get asked all the time: “Is ALL Masturbation Bad?”

The short answer is NO! Watch the video or read below to learn how masturbation can help you last longer in bed.

The truth is, when used CORRECTLY, masturbation is the single-most effective training tool you have.

But you need to make sure that you’re doing it right, or else you’ll just end up making things worse.

So here’s what you need to do…

Reserve Time for “MARATHON” Training

The biggest mistake guys make is “quick” masturbation, which essentially trains you to finish as fast as possible.

So, you need to do the OPPOSITE.

Set aside ENOUGH TIME!

For example, if you want to last 20 minutes in bed, then make sure that you have AT LEAST 20 minutes for “practice.’

Otherwise, you’ll just be training yourself for a “sprint.” Instead, you want to train yourself for a MARATHON. :-)

Then, as you’re taking your time, remember to incorporate the other pieces of advice I’ve given you. For example, Pay attention to your arousal, and make sure you’re doing deep breathing to stay calm and clear.

To get even more proven techniques, check out my new ebook, “The Step-By-Step Guide to Lasting Longer in Bed”

If you want to last longer in bed, you need to control your AROUSAL.

This video explains the #1 best way to do that…

You need to practice DEEP BREATHING.

Don’t skip over this part, because if you fail to do this right, you will sabotage yourself in the bedroom.

Proper breathing is critical to lasting longer in bed because it’s — hands-down — the BEST way to stay calm and relaxed. In other words, deep breathing is the KEY to Arousal Control.

So here’s how to make sure you’re breathing correctly:

When you inhale, make sure that your belly is expanding. Breathe in for 3-4 seconds, and then out for 4-5 seconds.

This is a great thing to do when you’re having sex, because it’ll keep your mind and body calm and clear.

But it’s also a good thing to do throughout your day, too, because it’ll keep your general stress levels at a minimum.

Click on the link below to learn a proven method to last longer in bed TONIGHT:

Step-by-step guide to last longer in bed

The first and #1 most important thing you need to do, to last longer in bed, is to control your AROUSAL.

(In case you don’t know, “arousal” is a state of sexual excitement. It’s another way of saying “turned on.” When you’re aroused, you get an erection).

So, here’s what you need to do:

FIRST, “Take Your Temperature”

To control your arousal, you need to be aware of it in the first place. Start paying closer attention to your arousal.

NEXT, “Stay Cool”

When you get aroused, your body tenses up, and this causes you to finish too quickly. (There are biological reasons for this, that I don’t have time to go into now).

The Bottom Line: You want to remain as calm and relaxed as possible!

Click here to learn more about how to last longer in bed TONIGHT

This will be a quick post, because I have to go meet some friends out for dinner.

But I was doing some research today (like I’m often doing), and I came across a very interesting statistic.

And actually it’s pretty heavy… Here it is:

The average guy with premature ejaculation problems waits 6 YEARS before doing anything about it.

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I don’t know if you’ve fully internalized that one yet… So I’ll repeat it:

The average guy with premature ejaculation problems waits 6 YEARS before doing anything about it.

Man, when I read that, it hit me like a ton of bricks.

6 YEARS!!

I was really surprised when I learned that.

But then, after thinking about it, I figured out WHY guys take so long to get help.

It’s because if a guy goes out and get help, that means that he’s admitting that he’s got a PROBLEM.

I mean, I can see that line of thinking… It’s just like a guy refusing to go to the gas station and ask for directions because he’s LOST.

But it’s still DUMB.

Well…. Another way to think of this is that you have an OPPORTUNITY. An opportunity to improve yourself, and improve your life. So why not take advantage of that?

And I sincerely, sincerely hope YOU don’t wait 6 years before you do something about this.

You might think, “hey, 6 years, that’s not THAT bad, most of us live into our 70s…” But when you stop to think about that, that’s a solid chunk of your prime love-making years!

Most guys start having sex in their late teens or early twenties and then their sex life slows down in their 50s or 60s, or if you’re lucky, it keeps going into your seventies… But, really we’re talking about 10% or perhaps even 20% of your prime years.

Don’t Be That Guy!

Don’t waste your prime years because you’re afraid to admit failure. The most successful people in the world fail ALL the time. (Just go ahead and read the biographies of super-successful people like Michael Jordan, Donald Trump, Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, and others — and you’ll learn that this is true). They’re willing to risk failure, and they’re willing to pick themselves up and keep going. And they’re willing to ask for help when they need it.

So if you’ve been waiting a long time to do something about it, then now’s the time.

Or, if you just realized that you’ve got a problem lasting longer in bed — GREAT — do something about it now.

And I’d like to offer you a solution — an immediate, downloadable, confidential solution — and best of all, you can definitely afford it.

Here’s what I’ve done… I’ve recorded an audio training lesson with my 7 Best Secrets for Lasting Longer in Bed.

You can get all the details about my audio training, right here:
http://theendurancereport.com/blog/download-mp3/

I created this audio training to help make it as EASY and convenient for you as possible to Take Action to solve this problem.

Hope you take my advice here, and think about that statistic (6 WHOLE YEARS, for crying out loud!) and Take Action tonight.

You’ll thank me when you look back on your “prime years” with warm happy feelings about all those wild nights, rather than looking back at regret on what could have been.

If you think the time is right to (finally) take some action, my audio training lesson might be a good starting point for you.

Ok, well my friend is about to pick me up to go out to dinner… He’s going to be here any minute, actually. I guess this post was longer than I expected it would be when I sat down to write, but it came out pretty fast.

Live your life to the fullest, and best of luck!

~C

When looking for a premature ejaculation cure, you have plenty of options.

However, before we begin to analyze the various choices you have, it’s worthwhile to step back and provide a definition of this common condition.

Definition of premature ejaculation

In the simplest terms, a man has premature ejaculation when he does not last long enough in bed to satisfy either himself or his partner.  Some experts say a man has PE if he doesn’t last 2 minutes, while others say he has PE if he doesn’t satisfy his partner at least 50% of the time.  The broadest (and best) definition of PE is simply “when a man’s inability to last causes distress for him or his partner.”

Sex is supposed to be fun, so it’s important to find a cure.  But before we get into that, it’s important to understand what can cause PE.

What causes premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is caused by a range of things, including genetics, hormones, one’s past sexual experiences (and masturbation habits), as well as stress and sexual performance anxiety. Also, men who have erectile dysfunction (ED) are more at risk for developing PE because they may want to race through the act out of fear of losing their erection.

That said, the majority of men suffer from PE for two reasons.

Poor Masturbation Habits: Most men, at least when they’re adolescents, have the bad habit of rushing through masturbation, either out of fear of getting caught, or out of a desire to experience an orgasm as soon as possible.  While this is understandable, it’s also harmful because it effectively trains the body to ejaculate as soon as possible – and this pattern causes premature ejaculation later in life.

Stress and Performance Anxiety: Let’s face it, most of us are pretty stressed.  It’s important to identify source of stress and relief stress for several reasons, including your general health, as well as your sexual performance.  If you’re stressed out (either about life in general or about performing well in bed), you’re more likely to finish sooner than you’d like.  By practicing stress relief techniques (such as deep breathing, meditation, regular exercise, and yoga), you’ll be calmer in general, which will help you last longer.  Also, there are specific breathing techniques, which you can do while having sex, which are effective for lasting longer in bed.

What makes a good cure for premature ejaculation?

When reviewing the possible solutions and treatments, we recommend that you focus on two criteria:

1) The cure should be something that permanently reverses the causes (rather than providing a quick but temporary fix)

2) The cure should be natural, so that you avoid (known or unknown) negative side effects, which may be harmful to your health.

Here are some common treatments, which some comments about how they stack up with regards to our criteria outlined above.

Sprays/creams, specialty condoms and cock rings

• Pro: Mostly natural; no known harmful side effects

• Con: Only works as long you continue to use them

• Overall rating: 4 out of 10.

• Bottom line: Use these products if you need a quick fix, but don’t rely on them.

Drugs – specifically, antidepressants like Prozac, Paxil, etc. (which have the side effect of increased endurance)

• Pro: Has been shown to work in clinical trials

• Con: These drugs have other side effects, which can be harmful. And this will only work as long as you continue to take the drugs, which makes it an ineffective cure.

• Overall rating: 2 out of 10.

• Bottom line: Consider using these types of drugs if you have tried everything else and nothing works for you.  Of course, consult with your doctor about potential negative side effects.

Education, training and conditioning.

• Pro:  100% natural and provides permanent results, because you’re addressing the root causes of premature ejaculation (fixing poor masturbation habits and eliminating stress)

• Con: It’s not necessarily a super quick fix. Men normally do see improved results within days, and significant improvement within weeks.  But unlike the sprays and creams, it may not cure PE immediately.  However, this type of treatment does provide lasting results.

• Overall rating: 9 out of 10.

• Bottom line: With this type of natural treatment, most men find a permanent cure for premature ejaculation.  It doesn’t work for absolutely everybody, which is why we only give this approach a 9 out of 10 rather than a 10.  But it is where we recommend you start if you’re looking to last longer in bed.

Finally, if you’re struggling to last longer in bed, you should check this out:
FREE Video Reveals the #1 Secret to Lasting Longer in Bed

Did you know that the vast majority of men are interested in lasting longer in bed? It’s true. Editors at Men’s Health magazine say that, by far, the number one question they receive from men is, “How can I last longer in bed?”

Some of these men have premature ejaculation, which is estimated to affect nearly a third of all men. But a significant proportion of them are men who are just looking for an extra edge so that they can better please their partners.

With that in mind, here are some tips for lasting longer in bed:

1) Identify and Reduce Sources of Stress

You’ll have better chances of lasting longer in bed if you can identify what causes you stress and cut out those harmful influences from your life. If you feel stressed or have body tension during sex, your body will seek an outlet for that tension, which commonly results in ejaculation occurring earlier than you would like.

The antidote is to get rid of your stress – inside and outside of the bedroom. Good ways to do this include exercise, yoga, meditation, and breathing techniques. And, in addition, it’s a good idea to practice proper breathing techniques while you’re having sex, too. This will keep you calm and focused, which is what you need to be if you’re interested in lasting longer in bed.

2) Practice Really Does Make Perfect

The reason why a lot of men don’t last as long as they’d like is because they’ve effectively been training themselves to finish fast, ever since adolescence, as a result of their masturbation habits. After years of rushing through the process, the body becomes accustomed to that sort of timing – and this can lead to finishing earlier than you would like.

The good news is that you can train your body to last longer through proper masturbation techniques. Essentially, rather than getting it over with as fast as possible, reserve time for yourself, and extend the session for as long as you can. This type of focused training can help you get to know your body’s triggers and over time you will increase your threshold for stimulation.

Finally, if you’re struggling to last longer in bed, you should check this out:
FREE Video Reveals the #1 Secret to Lasting Longer in Bed